So the past month has been extremely busy and stressful. Soccer started and it has been a struggle to push myself in keeping up with everyone else and making myself finish the complete field length sprints with everyone else, even though half of us are crying and a few of us are two sprints from throwing up. School has been another story. I had this crazy English project that I may have spent more time than necessary on to make it absolutely perfect, and I kinda just stopped doing my math homework because I was so exhausted from soccer, I never went to my tutor. But this little epic journey of self love hasn’t been halted.
I’ve been going through my tumblr and making documents and updating ones to post on here so I’ll have more things to immediately post. Finding photos, lists, websites and videos that helped me through losing best friends and family.
Why is the Baylor University campus the featured image of this post? Well, getting into the college I’ve been striving for since I was 4 has been my biggest push to achieve a sense of self love. I want to go off to college with love in my heart to spread and keep myself from being knocked down. It stands as a pillar, as a reminder, that I can achieve my biggest dreams when I push my boundaries and challenge those already in place.
Anyways, this list is going to be extremely important to me over the next couple weeks because the yea anniversary of one of my friends death by suicide is coming up on December 5. I’ve been thinking about what I want to do or who I want to see, but I really just don’t know. So for all those struggling, I came up with some simple, or maybe challenging ways you can find self love within and what self love really means for me.
- Self Love means choosing myself, my wellbeing, my physical, emotional, and mental health over others. Being selfish is not always a bad things. You may not be liked by everyone or be super popular, but you are so much more than those little things.
- Being kind to our body by letting ourselves rest.
- Wear clothes that make you feel good instead of what you “should wear” for your body shape. Stay comfortable by shedding layers in the summer and bundle in the winter.
- Accepting ourselves with the good, the bad, the ugly, the sexy, and the smelly—all of it. Embrace yourself as a human being.
- Making time to do whatever you love, just to play, without worrying about wasting time. Especially when life if so stressful, sometimes you need a break.
- Owning our inner and outer beauty and complimenting ourselves without feeling guilty, arrogant, or entitled. Makeup is one of my favorite forms of art, expression, hobby, and just plain fun that can result in confidence.
- Not rehashing our past mistakes and dragging ourselves to a dark place when we know that we can only learn from the past; we can’t change it.
- Spending some quality, personal time with ourselves instead of always watching TV or wasting time on the Internet. Try meditation, counting breaths (or other Buddhist techniques quieting techniques), or simple journaling.
- Take a day or a weekend just to blast music and clean your room or living space. I myself cannot live in chaos, and my mother has told me this hundreds of times. When my room is a mess, I’m a mess because of unnecessary stress caused from it.
- Using discretion when sharing our heart, self, and dreams with others. This doesn’t mean “keep it all bottled up”, absolutely not. Just know who those few people are who understand you and don’t judge you.
- Trusting the path that your soul is on and making a genuine effort to become a conscious co-creator of your own destiny.
- Following what your gut/intuition says instead of living out of your brain and ego, even emotionally. Short term problems can and should not be solved with long term, unchangeable actions.
- Staying true to your integrity, both when it comes to yourself and when interacting with others out in the world. This includes keeping yourself in check regarding patterns such as lying, manipulating, co-depending, withholding, and pretending.
- Allow yourself to dream big, without contaminating these dreams with judgments, your perceived limitations, or a lack of sense of deserving.
- Knowing how you’re spending your emotional, mental, financial, and physical energy, and whether these activities bring back joy, connection, nurturing, rest, and creativity to your life.
- Taking responsibility for all of your experiences. Knowing that you have the ability for deeper self awareness and access to your intuition when it comes to making life choices.
- Not labeling yourself with others’ opinions of you, while having the courage to look inside to see if there might be some truth to them.
- Learning to set boundaries that protect and nurture your relationships, with yourself and others.
- Allowing yourself to make mistakes and not berating yourself for making them. Instead, choosing to appreciate your desire to learn and grow.
- Refusing to seek permission or approval to be yourself. Recognizing that you, like everyone else, deserve to take up space on this planet just as who you are right now.
And lastly self love is…
Loving and accepting yourself even when you fail miserably at some of these self-love goals.
Good night, ♡Brit
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BRIT LAVERGNE 